Where to get 'em...

If a person does not want to meet a prospective mate in a club or bar setting, where should s/he go to meet people of the opposite sex who are attractive, moderately successful and ready for something longer than a one-night stand? Are all club introductions doomed from the start? I would never even respond to men in the grocery store or Wal-Mart. It just always seemed so tacky. Every encounter that I entertained was in an organic setting, like at work, the guy you pass every day, or church, where you see the person every Sunday. Because when someone approaches you at the gas pump and says, "Hey, you lookin' good today? Can I take you out?", Doesn't that translate into, "Can I get in your drawls?" I'm just sayin...

The Heart vs. The Head

One of the themes in my book, No Ordinary Justice, is that the female character does not want the man who's good for her, but can't stop thinking about the one that just makes her feel good. Why won't the heart do what the head tells it to? Is it better to go with the "smart" choice for a relationship (someone who looks good on paper), or just throw caution to the wind and go with that "feeling" (someone who gives you butterflies), even if it's an enormous risk? If a person goes with the head, is it settling? If s/he goes with the heart, is it foolish?